Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’

Do You Think Practically About Marriage?

// August 13th, 2008 // 26 Comments » // Blog

A question I was asked very recently.

My answer was not particularly impressive. Perhaps due to the tension of the moment. But more likely because it is a question that requires some real thinking. Can any of us think practically about a subject that is tied to heart, mind, body and soul?

I had a post all written out, but who cares what I think? I want to hear from you.

So, single people… do you?

Married people… did you?

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Smart Muslim Chicks Who Inexplicably Scare Off Guys

// June 16th, 2008 // No Comments » // Blog

After discovering an article titled “A Few Good Men: American Muslim women bemoan lack of 'good' male suitors“, I was oh-so-kindly “volunteered” by my fellow MM staff members to write a blog post in response. I wonder why? Could it be because:

1) I am a Muslim woman.
2) I am between the ages of 25-30 years.
3) māshā’Allāh, I am educated to the postgrad level (otherwise known as “overeducated” by my dear mum).
4) Oh yeah… I am single, and desperately looking for a decent guy to wed!

Okay, so scratch the “desperately”.

Continue reading at MuslimMatters.org…

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The Ultimate Contraception…

// March 26th, 2008 // 12 Comments » // Blog

… is to spend a few days with your friend's two adorable, yet very tiring, baby boys… Suddenly, I greatly appreciate the single life!

Paradise Wasn’t Enough

// November 6th, 2007 // 5 Comments » // Blog

I write this with a smile because I believe finding your special someone is a beautiful experience that needs to be shared with the world. It's a holy, spiritual union that God has destined. Think about it. Paradise wasn't enough for Prophet Adam. He had it all, but still needed Eve as his soul mate. Only then did Eve complete his Paradise. Only then.

Jazakallah Uniquey for your beautiful words, māshā’Allāh!

Sorry for the complete lack of blogging… well, blogging on this site. I've been glued to the computer all week working on various other blogs… just not my own! Lack of inspiration also doesn't help. Ever feel like you're all blogged out? Like, “what's the point?”. Not “what's the points of blogging”… rather, “What's the point of me babbling on about rubbish? I want to make a difference!” etc. That's where i'm at. Alhamdulillah, my other projects seem to be a better use of my blogging time in that sense… but i miss this place, and my little community of blogging pals. Not sure how to remedy this lull!

Hadith for the House-Spouse

// October 25th, 2007 // 4 Comments » // Blog

Note the gender neutrality of the post title!

Imam Ahmed reported in his Musnad, the Messenger of Allāh, peace be upon him, used to “sew his own clothes, mend his own shoes and do whatever other work men do in their homes.”

This was said by his wife Aisha, when she was asked about what the Messenger of Allāh used to do in his house. In another narration, she said: “He was like any other human being: he would clean his clothes, milk his ewe and serve himself.”

In yet another narration reported in Sahih Bukhari, a more general description of his involvement at home is available. The Mother of Believer, Aisha narrates, “He used to serve his family, then when the time for prayer came, he would go out to pray.”

If we revive this example in our lives, we would at least achieve a few things:
1. we would be following the example of the Prophet
2. we would be bringing our families closer together & helping our wives
3. we would inject more humility into our lives & stave of arrogance.
It is commonplace nowadays to hear of men who demand food instantly from their wives when they get home. The pot might be on the stove and the baby screaming to be fed. Yet, they do not even pick up the child or show patience and wait a little while for the food. Let these ahadeeth be a reminder and a lesson for all of us.

This reminder was taken from the Imperial College London iSoc weekly newsletter.

The Princess & The Ivory Tower

// October 8th, 2007 // 37 Comments » // Blog

Rapunzel dolefully stared at herself in the mirror, as she ran a golden comb through her long, silky locks.

“I'm lonely up here, in my ivory tower.”, she sighed. “I'd really like some company… or maybe, to get out more. But how do i leave a room with no doors, ten storeys high?”.

She gently placed the comb down on the dresser, slowly meandered over to the only window, and longingly gazed out onto a world she barely knew.

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Naughty Him

// August 21st, 2007 // No Comments » // Blog

This is truly a guy after my own heart! His answer wipes the floor with mine!! Māshā’Allāh :D

Disclaimer: The author is not married nor has he ever been married. Following his advice may lead to severe stomach and/or marital problems. These are just reflections and best guesses from watching the community and reading about the topic.

Naughty Me

// August 21st, 2007 // No Comments » // Blog

Yeah, yeah, i know i'm meant to be MIA when it comes to commenting on other people's blogs… but i couldn't resist ranting away on this entry. C'mon guys, it's Suhaib Webb! He asked a question – i gotsa answer, yo! (That's my lame Suhaib Webb impression… hehe).

Question of the Week: Why is Divorce So High Amongst Young Muslim Couples?

Asalamu alaykum,

I'm struggling to deal with this one as it is almost at a chronic level. I'm thinking that an association towards the ease and sustainment of marriage should be established (at least on a local level). A course could be given over a two weekend period that covers the fiqh and social aspects of marriage. If one passes, I would marry him/her. If not, then let them try again. In addition, councilors, on a local level, or even mentors, could be assigned to couples to serve as their crutches through the first few years of their marriage. What are your thoughts and what can be done to help the problem?

Suhaib

My answer (which is currently awaiting moderation… humph):

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